Similarly, it is foolish to wish that your partner, friend, family relative or employee be without fault. This is wishing to control things that you cant truly control.
It is within our control not to be disappointed by our desires if we deal with them according to facts rather than by being swept away by them.
We are ultimately controlled by that; which bestows what we seek or removes what we don’t want. If its freedom you seek, then wish nothing and shun nothing that depends on others,or you will always be a helpless slave.
Understand what freedom really is and how it is achieved. Freedom isn’t the right or ability to do whatever you please. Freedom comes from understanding the limits of our own power and the natural limits set in place by Divine Providence. By accepting life’s limits and inevitabilities and working with them rather than fighting them, we become Free.
If on the other hand, we succumb to our passing desires for things that aren’t in our control, Freedom is lost.
-Excerpt from The Art of Living by Sharon Lebell
( Based on the Teachings of Epictetus- a 3rd century stoic master and philosopher)