Usually we are stuck in our differences because we have lost sight of ourselves. In the name of love we try to manipulate and control the other person. It is natural that when we love someone, we want them to be perfect.
You can never see the holes in the ground from the top of a hill. From an airplane, the earth looks so smooth. So also from a state of elevated consciousness, you do not see the pitfalls in others. But if you come to the ground you always see the holes. When you want to fill the holes, you have to see them. You cannot build a home being airbourne. You cannot till the land without looking at the holes, filling them, removing the pebbles.
That is why when you love someone, when you are close to them you find faults in them.But finding faults destroys love and instead of helping to fill the holes, we run away. When you love someone and see their faults,stay with them and help them fill the holes. This is Wisdom.
-Teachings by His Holiness Sri Sri Ravi Shanker